Laughter at the small tyrant that has taken over your life with their giggles, burps, feedings, and middle-of-the-night demands. It may not be the person you hoped for or expected, but I hope you find them. You will need at least one of these people, and they will make you feel like you are the wealthiest person alive. Rich with people who understand the world of adoption, who absolutely have your back when you are overwhelmed and crying in your closet. You will find yourself thankful for at least one of these things, if not all of them, at some point. You will need to be Scrooge McDuck, swimming in a pool of it, wealthy in baby wipes, diapers, burp rags, onesies, blankies, and apologies for not being able to attend because the baby has sniffles. You will need to be rich in smiles for the 1,000 pictures your family will (rightfully) want to take when it’s all done. That imagination will help you figure out what to do while waiting with your impatient preschooler to finally have the adoption finalized in court and the lawyer is running late. Those moments when you are so exhausted, you can barely move, but your heart is the fullest it has ever been? Those make you the wealthiest person in the world.
Rich in precious late-night feeding times when it is just you and your wished for, dreamed for, dearly loved baby staring into one another’s eyes.
You will be rich in baby smiles, chortles, and coos. Explaining that your infant probably isn’t a sociopath won’t calm these people down, and honestly, you get to live with baby snuggles, and they get to live with judgment and anxiety, so who is the real winner here? You. They will all know best and will probably have a cousin whose second wife’s third aunt twice removed was maybe murdered by an adopted child. You will need an abundant wealth of ability to deal with other people’s opinions on adoption. To sign your name 10,000 times on the adoption paperwork, to explain to the nurse 500 times that he’s adopted and that’s why he is in the system with a different last name, and no, you didn’t abduct him. You will need to be rich in patience to fill out every piece of paperwork you were sure you already filled out twice over again when it gets misplaced. You will need patience when your precious 2-year-old manages to destroy something that has been in your family for generations with a mischievous grin and a tug on the shelf you thought they couldn’t reach. You will need to be rich in patience with the caseworkers, birth parents, in-laws, and strangers when they ask invasive questions, and you feel like it isn’t their business (for some of them it is, in fact, their business). However, waiting can be hard when you want something badly, so you will need to have a wealth of patience. I can look back at Facebook posts during our waiting time, and one would think we were waiting for decades when, in reality, it was a few months from the time we finished paperwork and classes until the time the kids were in our home. Days and months of waiting can feel like years of agony. It takes what seems like an interminable amount of time to be matched or to receive a foster placement. You Need to Be Rich in Patience.įirst, be patient with the timing of your adoption. However, there are ways you have to be rich to be a good adoptive family. You do need money to provide for all the things a kid needs, but you don’t have to be rich if you are wise with your money. My husband and I left our first class and walked past seven beautiful new-or at least newer than ours-vehicles and questioned if we were not doing a kid a disservice by offering them our home. This is not to say that if you are at the lower end of the monetary spectrum, you might not feel out of your depths attending an adoption information meeting. If that was the case, then many children would be without a home. So no, to be eligible to adopt, you need to prove you can provide for a child, but you by no means need to be rich. If you adopt through an agency, you can apply for grants, loans you can receive, and church support you can garner. If you consider adoption through foster care, it can be very inexpensive, and in some cases, free. You absolutely do not have to be rich to adopt.
There is a question that hovers at the front of many people’s minds when they consider the possibility of adoption: “Do you have to be rich to adopt?” It is a simple question to answer when taken at face value.
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